The Calm Before the Storm
Posted on February 25, 2012 at 4:41 pm
I got engaged the second week of January and two weeks later, on January 30th, my mother was diagnosed with Stage IV cancer. Before then we knew she was sick but had no idea it was cancer. She delayed seeing the doctor because she was uninsured and waiting to get onto Medicare. I too am uninsured – in the country that supposedly has the best healthcare in the world it is inaccessible to far too many people.
The cancer has spread to several organs and there is no hope of recovery. The focus is on simply giving her the least painful death.
I’ve returned to Utah to stay with her and give her whatever help I can. Many days I spend just doing housework and cooking meals. But all of that will change soon. She starts chemotherapy in a week and radiation treatment a week after that. While these are painful treatments, they are done because if they don’t do it then her death will be excruciatingly painful.
I see my mother try to prepare herself for what’s to come and know that she has no good choices. Right now we are in a relatively easy period before the coming storm.